Deadheads In The High Desert

“Kermit” parked at a campsite in the Nevada outback.

While I was working towards my B.A. in Anthropology at the University of Oregon I had many opportunities to see the Grateful Dead. They played often in the area. The first Dead concert I attended was in 1968, when I was a high school senior. Although I never considered myself a “Deadhead,” their record albums were on regular rotation at the places I lived while in college, along with Miles Davis, John McLaughlin, Larry Coryell, Pink Floyd, and other popular rock and jazz bands of the era. I lived with musicians most of my years at the university, and our record collection was certainly more diverse and eclectic than most of our peers. I’ve never been in any bands that played their music, but I have always admired the Grateful Dead’s commitment and musical integrity.

When I travel the high deserts and Great Basin region I often encounter other campers and travelers who attended the U of O, or live in Eugene. I suppose the progressive, liberal culture of the university and Eugene has had a great effect on how I view the world, for I always feel an immediate connection to those people.

The recent death of Bob Weir reminds me of an encounter I had the summer of 2023 at a remote and undeveloped hot springs in Nevada. I drove up a long, dusty dirt road to the unmarked place. An old Volkswagen bus was the only other vehicle present. Dozens of Grateful Dead of stickers covered the entire back of the machine.

There were only two people in the hot springs, a couple my age or older. As manners and custom dictated I asked if I could join them, and they replied that there was plenty of room and I was welcome. The water was waist high, and the temperature perfect.

In the course of a rambling conversation about favorite hot springs and camping locations, Nevada history (my mother grew up in Nevada), music, and the sorry state of American politics, the man revealed that he had attended the U of O two of the same years I had been there. He told me he had gone to one of the Grateful Dead concerts, dropped out of college the next day, packed up his things, and began following the band. Eventually he got a job as a stage hand and sort of assistant bodyguard (he was a big man). He toured with the Dead for ten years, and he and his wife met at a Grateful Dead concert. Nearly fifty years later he was still married to the white-haired woman sitting next to him in the hot springs.

They went on to tell me their van used to be plastered with a variety of bumper stickers, mostly for progressive causes—women’s reproductive rights, anti-war, etc. But while traveling through some towns and rural areas MAGA cultists and other right-wingers, usually driving big Dodge Ram pickups or flatbed trucks would honk, flip them off, or even crowd them off the road. So they removed all the stickers except the Grateful Dead ones. After that they got smiles and high fives everywhere they went. It seems even the rednecks loved the Dead!

We were just three strangers meeting by chance in the middle of nowhere, lured by a mutual love of hot springs, and remote high desert camping, and finding an even deeper connection—another testament to the power of music to unite us. Long live the Dead!

Another Much Sadder Birthday

My birthday this year coincided with most of the results of the midterms coming in. The outcome is better than I had hoped, giving me some cause for optimism. Although I have much to be grateful for this year, my youngest daughter’s absence made the occasion bittersweet. Any joy I feel is tempered with sadness now. In my last blog I was brimming with energy and confidence, excited about publishing my third book and looking forward to an author event March 24 at Village Books in Bellingham. My daughter, Haley, died that very morning of a fentanyl overdose. My wife and I spent the day at the hospital, where they managed to get her heart beating, but she did not regain consciousness.

I look back on my post from last year, “Thoughts On Becoming 70,” and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Such hubris. The wise old man—ha! Spry old guy with all his plans and projects—ha-ha! Grief can lay us low, I know. I had an urge to delete that post after reading it again, but I’ll leave it up, as an example of how the universe will give us a reality check.

But life goes on for the living, and the question is always how best to spend our time, and how to find some meaning in our remaining days. Some of us are fortunate. Many millions must use every available hour just to provide for their necessities. Though not by any means well-off by “Western” standards, I have the luxury of not having to scramble every waking hour to survive—and, for the moment, time and health to pursue my writing and musical projects. What else can I do? Those who know me understand I am compelled to such activity. The only way I know how to deal with grief is to stay busy. So I trudge on, sadder and perhaps no wiser, but certainly more appreciative of my family and friends, and far more empathetic with those parents who have outlived their children—the most desolate and heartbreaking grief of all.

One bright spot was the return to performing this summer in Lemon Creek. The time I spend rehearsing and performing with my daughter, Lesley, is more precious than ever. All our performances were out of doors, and the weather cooperated. I put up a few photos at the Lemon Creek page here.

I had to take a break from writing for a few months, but I’m back at it again. I’m working on a sequel to “Cape Decision,” and I’ve got a couple of other books in progress. But I don’t take anything for granted. We’ll see what transpires.